I do not know since when I have gradually began losing friends... Mummy friends, soulmates...
Since the day I knew I was pregnant, I was totally engrossed in the needs of Ryan. I found new friends from the forum who are also delivering in the same month as me. We were chatting daily via the singapore motherhood forum, exchanging views and ideas on how to deal with pregnancy & newborn baby.
As months passes by, I realised that that are alot of gossips going on in the forum. Whether it's about this particular mummy's attitude or that particular mummy's character... And there I thought women gossiping was a natural thing to do... How silly of me
I thought the forum was a place for people to discuss about things like child-bearing... Never knew it has become a place where we are being selected / qualify to be friends or not. Worse of all, I do not know since when I became an outcast.. Perhaps I have offended some people with my way of speech...
As i became obsessed with Ryan, I did not realise that I have drifted apart from other close friends... They were so supportive and helpful. But yet, I have forgotten all about them. No, I have actually not forgotten about them. It's just that I do not know what common topics we can chat about. Perhaps it's all my fault for being over obssessed with Ryan that I have forgotten how to be a friend.
I have to learn how to multi-task. Learning how to be a friend & a mother & a wife all at the same time. Not abandoning either role.
Now, talking about being a wife... Seems, my hubby have lost his soulmate - me. How do I learn multi-tasking?
dun worry.. ppl come, ppl go...
ReplyDeleteFrom my experience, just get a few close friends where u can mingle and whom yr son can mingle with.
Always remember, you cannot satisfy everyone and u cannot make everyone happy. Sometimes whatever the reason is that ppl might misunderstood u, just let it be, only ourself know the truth. People can misunderstood or assume and it doesnt matter cos so long your heart is at peace...(or rather that what i believe)
It is human nature that people will never remember the good things you have done but once u make a bad mistake, people will remeber for life. Eg you may hv done 10 good things, however once u make one bad mistake, people would remember the 1 bad mistake you make and forget the 10 good things you had done previously.... so.. for the sake of ryan and your hubby, cheer up! :-)
Take care k.. focus on other more meaningful things in your life. If u wan to find ppl to go out with, i knw a few mummies with bb born in feb stayign ard holland/buona vista area too... :-) My good friend who younger son is born in feb 08 is oso staying at south buona vista and she's a SAHM too... :-)
life is like a box of chocolate .. Take it easy n enjoy the pieces inside!!
ReplyDeletegossips come gossips go...is matter of time, who nv gossiped before? who nv be the target of gossiping?...if u care so much abt gossips, then it's win over u........dun let the gossips mess up your life. it's your life not theirs. i will always be your friend no matter wat happen
ReplyDeletei'm ok now.. juz tot of penning my thoughts at tat moment... no hard feelings towards anyone :)
ReplyDeletesorry, juz to clarify tat i m not talking abt anyone in particular.. juz feeling silly n down at tat time.
ReplyDeletelife is like a box of chocolates i saw on happilygal joyce multiply blog..i was still thinking 2 days ago when i went to her site tat it is so appropriately worded
ReplyDeletehaha, yeah.. i noe. i think too much lah. keke
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